POSITIVE PARENTING SURVEY & ASSESSMENT
POSITIVE PARENTING SURVEY & ASSESSMENT
POSITIVE PARENTING 28 DAY CYCLE PRE-ASSESSMENT CHECK LIST:
TRANS THEORECTICAL BEHAVIORAL MODEL FOR CHANGE & SELF-ANALYSIS. An effective discipline system must contain three vital elements (and also include a model of self care). Each element needs to be functioning adequately for discipline to be effective. Check off and grade on a scale from 1-5 your current parental behavior that you practice with your children.
0: PRE-CONTEMPLATION: Not ready, I never do this
1: CONTEMPLATION: I Could use some improvement
2: CONTEMPLATION: I could do things differently,
3: PLANNING: Taking steps to implement changes
4: MAINTAINING FOR 1 MONTH: Doing often, getting better
5: MAINTAINING: Living A Positive Parenting Life-style
1) INITIATE: 25 points
POSITIVE, SUPPORTIVE, LOVING RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN PARENT AND CHILD:
[_]a. Maintain a positive emotional tone in the home.
[_]b. Pay attention to the child to increase positive behavior / withhold attention to decrease negative behaviors.
[_]c. Be consistent in daily activities to reduce resistance and make negative experiences less stressful.
[_]d. Respond consistently to similar behaviors.
[_]e. Be flexible by listening, negotiation, and involving the child in decision-making. This has been associated with long- term enhancement in moral judgment.
[_]f. Maintain healthy nutritional habits:
4.17 points each. Score: __
2) REFINE: 25 points
POSITIVE REINFORCEMENT STRATEGIES TO INCREASE DESIRED BEHAVIORS:
Give regular positive attention or “special time.”
[_]a. Listen carefully and help them learn to use words to express their feelings.
[_]b. Provide children with opportunities to make choices and to understand the consequences of their choice.
[_]c. Reinforce desirable behaviors with frequent praise and ignore trivial misdeeds.
[_]d. Be a good model for orderly, predictable behavior, respectful communication, and conflict resolution.
6.25 points each. Score: __
3) TRANSFORM: 25 points
REMOVE REINFORCEMENTS OR APPLY PUNISHMENT TO REDUCE OR ELIMINATE UNDESIRED BEHAVIORS.
[_]a. Be consistent with time-out and removal of privileges (increases compliance from 25% to 80%)
[_]b. Be clear about what the bad behavior is and what the consequences will be.
[_]c. Provide a strong and immediate consequence when the bad behavior first occurs.
[_]d. Providing an appropriate consequence each time the bad behavior occurs.
[_]e. Deliver instruction and correction calmly and with empathy.
[_]f. Give a reason for the consequence. This helps children learn appropriate behavior.
[_]g. Use verbal reprimands infrequently and always direct them towards the bad behavior not the child’s character.
3.58 points each. Score: __
4) POWER: 25 points
SELF-CARE & REWARDS
[_]a. Managing anger with stress management techniques
[_]b. Involved in relaxing, and re-energizing habits & healthy lifestyle activities
[_]c. Taking trips, enjoying nature and community
[_]d. Maintain positive communication with supportive respectful caring adult friendships
[_]e. Maintain positive communication with loving stable intimate partner relationship
5 points each. Score: __
THIS MONTH'S TOTAL POSITIVE PARENTING SCORE: ___
KEEPING WEEKLY & MONTHLY RECORDS
The woman is the keeper of the secrets of time"
"In Kemet (Ancient Egypt) mothers were often extolled by kings and nobles on their monuments. In this the matriarchal nature of Kemetic rulership, woman wielded a great deal of power whether in the position of rulership or as having a definite voice in government and direct influence on the king." Excerpt: Black Women In Antiquity By Ivan Van Sertima
USING THE DREAMSPELL MONTHLY CALENDAR:
- Helpful Moon Cycles & Aromatherapy http://healthwealthandromance.com/mooncycleschart.html
- Dreamspell 28 Day Calendar & Positive Daily Affirmations http://www.lawoftime.org/thirteenmoon/13-moon-calendar.html
- Free downloadable Calendar http://www.lawoftime.org/thirteenmoon/freecal.html
"Words saturated with sincerity, conviction, faith, and intuition are like highly explosive vibration bombs, which, when set off, shatter the rocks of difficulties and create the change desired. Avoid speaking unpleasant words, even if true. Sincere words of ffirmations repeated understandingly, freelingy, and willingly are sure to move the Omnipresent Cosmic Vibratory Force to rend aid in your difficulty" Scientific Healing Affirmations by Paramahansa Yogananda.
In this group each month, week, and daily affirmation will have it's own unique focus for self and community development by following the Law Of Time’s 28 Day "Dreamspell Calendar"
Based on the Olmec/Mayan mathematical calendar system
Click on the link above to download a free current calendar to your phone:
[_] 1st week Initiation Days:
Identifying The Use Of Positive Parenting Skills For Developing Good Relationship With Child
[_] 2nd week Refining Days:
Encouraging good behavior according to natural talents & skills to develop for child’s destiny.
[_] 3rd week Transformation Days:
Teaching new skills & behavior according to Inner Child and Life Purpose
[_] 4th week Rewarding Days:
22nd - 28th
Managing misbehavior, addressing anger and shadows, identifying relaxation and stress management techniques and love languages.
"MOTHER IS 1ST NURSE 1ST TEACHER POSITIVE PARENTING"
"Mother is such a divine word. The experience of mother is the experience of being a god in the lives of your children. It means much more than the well-known physical process of pregnancy, birth and nurturing (though many Black women have lost even this basic natural instince to properly care for their own children). It embraces the awareness of the real value of your body - - the most elegant possession we have on the physical plane - - something precious which requires attention" ... In addition to her role as Mother Of Civilization, the Black woman is also the High Priestess of the world." Excerpt: Min. Ava Muhammad
- Bath-sheba: Mother of Solomon
- Hannah: Mother of Samuel
- Aahemes-Nefetari: Mother of Aahmes, Amenhotep
- Hatshepsut: Mother of Nefrure
- Maryam: Mother of Isa (Jesus)
- Nandi: Mother of Shaka
- Tiye: Mother of Akhenaten & Tutankhamen (Tut)
- Hoelun: Mother of Genghis Khan
GOALS FOR CHANGE:Think about your child's behavior for a moment. Each week you will have the opportunity to select a goal for change. This program will support you in using positive parenting skills to accomplish the goals you set for your child.
"Mother Is 1st Nurse 1st Teacher Positive Parenting" is an educational group focusing on how to teach mothers to teach the gods that you gave birth to ranging from the ages of 0-9 years old. While developing a positive, supportive, loving relationship between the parents in the home and between the parents and child. Each month (28 day cycle) will be a different focus universally and a different approach individually for self development and family activities according to your personal "Family Vision" vibration and mathematical characteristics.
Please learn how to calculate for yourself and then calculate your family members according to everyone’s personal vibration and mathematical characteristics. Instructions are given on how to do this on this page:
CHARTING: Mothers will learn how to parent a child based on their child's natural talents and gifts. Requirement for membership would be to use your children(s) Mathematical Analysis Chart (numerology) as a reference guide: The guide will be for each child's development in order to effectively monitor your own personal and child's positive development for this group according to their lists of natural talents, gifts, nutrition and lifestyle, while implementing "Positive Parenting" techniques.
Mothers are asked to learn how to parent a child based on their child's
Innerchild: Emotions, natural talents, health & nutrition, based on day of birth. http://healthwealthandromance.com/photo3_1.html
Life Purpose: Skills to develop, transitions & challenges as indicated by date of birth http://healthwealthandromance.com/custom4.html
Destiny: Life story guided by the name documented on child's birth record. http://www.whenyouteachawomanyouteachanation.com/holiday_9.html
Destiny: Style of effective & natural parenting techniques indicated by parent's own name documented on birth record.
- Mother: http://www.whenyouteachawomanyouteachanation.com/holiday_6.html
- Father: http://whenyouteachawomanyouteachanation.com/holiday_7.html
Heart: This is the area of the Soul's desire for true companionship. Parents can use this area to identify what's at the core of their love & romantic feelings to acknowledge: http://healthwealthandromance.com/custom3.html Once you have identified your heart, confirm the expression of it through the 5 Love Languages Profile: Take this profile on line, download (and email to yourself) save the results to share with each other.
http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/ WAYS TO COMMUNICATE LOVE ...
Watch the video to see ways to communicate your love language! http://keepthefaith.com/page/gary-chapman
Email Face Book Group
"MEMBERSHIP REQUEST" to
Mother Is 1st Nurse 1st Teacher:
“THE EIGHT FOLD PATH”
"8-Fold Path" Song By The Suns Of Light Hakim Abdulsamad, Bilal Abdulsamad, Tajh Abdulsamad (Play this song for children at bedtime)
Also known as The Middle Path or Middle Way), is a guide to understand and practice a path to cease suffering and achieve spiritual enlightenment
[_] 1. Right view (vision/understanding): accepting the Four Noble Truths are fundamental and true while providing the path toward transformation.
[_] 2. Right thought (intentions/motivations/aspirations/attitudes): living without attachment (letting go) while being kind and compassionate.
[_] 3. Right speech: speaking with clarity and truthfulness while avoiding slander, gossip, lying, untrue, harmful and/or abusive talk.
[_] 4. Right action (conduct): acting without violence (ahimsa) or exploitation; no stealing or sexual impropriety.
[_] 5. Right livelihood (means of making a living): working without slaughtering animals or doing jobs that violate others.
[_] 6. Right mental effort (attitude/diligence): consciously living along a transformative path of creativity and healing towards wholeness while avoiding negative thoughts and emotions, such as anger and jealousy. Think conscious personal evolution.
[_] 7. Right mindfulness: maintaining awareness and clarity of one’s mental, emotional, physical and spiritual reality.
[_] 8. Right concentration (meditation): meditating with single-mindedness to reach the highest level of consciousness/enlightenment.
8 FOLD PATH
BY THE SUNS OF LIGHT LYRICS TO SONG
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PARENTING BY THE NUMBERS INTERVIEW:
- Children's Cultural Educational Artwork:
GROUP HOSTING AN ON-SITE WORKSHOP
Host is expected to arrange the following
•[_] Schedule a date for workshop at least 3-4 weeks in advance.
•[_] Provide a secure safe public venue: Climate controled room for heating & air conditioning adjusments if necessary
•[_] Room with adjustable lighting or switches that control dark to light and from light to dark
•[_] Room with WiFi access to internet & websites
•[_] Room to accomodate workshop participants (up to 24) adequately, free of clutter, unnecessary items i.e. distracting sounds or voices
•[_] Facilitator/Presenter tour of the group site 2 weeks in advance of scheduled date
•[_] Set up room at least 30 minutes prior to beginning of workshop and provide clean-up afterwards.
•[_] Invite participants to group, provide appropriate reminders prior to appointed group time
•[_] Gathering information from group participants 2 weeks in advance: D.O.B. required and 1st name (optional).
•[_] Responsible for gathering committment/video consents & requested funds from each group participant: Pocket Lesson fee, Hosting Fee per person.
•[_] Hosts collects all payment from each invited participant, then makes the payments for the Group via paypal to presenter
•[_] Register Group participants names with presenter 2 weeks in advance of workshop date.
All classes, workshops, or presentations generally use an aromatherapy diffuser with lemon pure essential oil. Lemon is not an irritant to most of those with allergies, however please be mindful that a variety of essential oils and their many uses may be introduced during class. Please inform the presenter if you have a history of allergies and/or if you should happen to experience an essential oil in an undesireable way. all prices subject to change without notice